Author: way0utwest

  • Achievement 2020: Holiday Use

    One of the company mandates this year was to use 60% of your holiday (vacation) allowance by Sep 30. This was to prevent lots of people wanting to use time off in Q4 and many of them having to be told no because we have a business to run. When this came out, it looked like the world might open up more in Q4. Not sure that will happen, but preparation is important.

    I’m taking today and tomorrow off, and that will put me at 66% of holiday for the year.

    I struggle with taking time off, so I’m proud that I made it, even with a pandemic and no travel occurring.

    Today is a horseback ride with my wife and daughter. Tomorrow are chores, but not too intense ones.

  • Daily Coping 24 Sep 2020

    I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

    Today’s tip is to don’t compare how you feel inside to how others appear outside.

    I used to compare myself to others early in my career. The jobs they held, their salary, the projects they’d built or managed. Really, anything that others had accomplished. I think that can be useful early in your career to give you things to strive to accomplish.

    Where this falls down is when you overvalue more than a specific goal from someone. While I might have wanted to manage a team of DBAs, or build software that provide real time analytics, I shouldn’t think that someone else’s path is the one I want to walk.

    This can be the same phenomenon on Instagram, Facebook, etc. where it appears others have amazing lives and you don’t. Others might be loving their experiences when you’re struggling with the world.

    I post the fun things and interesting experiences, but I don’t talk too often about the struggles between these amazing moments.

    You don’t see the tough times or thoughts.

    At least not many. I do expose more than a few friends think I should, but overall I keep a lot private, between family and friends. I have down times, I have difficult times, I question what I’m doing, how and why, on a regular basis.

    My internal world is different from my external world. I try hard to remember that when I see things from others that might make me jealous of them.

  • The Habits of Better Teams

    As a developer, I’ve often worked with a team of others, where we discussed the software we were building, what architectures and patterns to adopt, etc. While we all learned to work together, there were plenty of times that it felt as if we were working separately on code, but arguing often about how to make a decision about a technical approach or a priority.

    As a DBA, I’ve often worked alone, though usually interfacing with different teams as needed. In these cases, I’ve often had to learn to make my own decisions and then justify those to others later. The few times I worked with a team of DBAs, it seemed as though this was still the model, independent work, though with everyone deferring to the senior DBA.

    Building a team takes work, and it can be difficult to do so without the support of management. I’m always amazed at how many managers undermine the building of a high performing team, often in contrast to their words or the company’s statements. Many don’t even realize how poorly they promote teamwork, or how they actively prevent it.

    Assuming you can get support, what do you want in your team? I saw a neat post on the habits of high performing teams. These are some of the things you want to install in all your members. I’ve rarely had high psychological safety, though I think we do now at Redgate. I especially like the idea of leveling experience points. I hadn’t thought about it in these terms, but that makes perfect sense to me.

    That last section, where we assume our peers are competent and intelligent resonates with me. I haven’t always done this in the past, but I have tried hard later in my career to listen more, and to assume others are working with the best information they have. Perhaps that’s different than my information, so I should try to have a discussion, not a lecture or a dismissal of their effort.

    That’s something I wish I would have learned a lot earlier in my career.

    Steve Jones

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  • Daily Coping 23 Sep 2020

    I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

    Today’s tip is to notice what you are feeling today without judgement.

    I write this ahead of time, so I’ll tell you about my day today. It’s mid morning. I have been awake for awhile, working along, handling a variety of communications with different groups and people. It’s a hectic am, and my body is sore. A lot of workouts and ranch chores lately, and I’m fatigued.

    However, I’m actually doing well. I followed this advice without knowing it this morning. I woke up, knowing I was tired, but needing to get to work. I accepted the soreness and feelings, choosing to work with them.

    A few naproxen, which is a rarity for me, but I do use them when I’m especially uncomfortable. I had some time, so I treated myself to a coffee run in town. Not very efficient or cost effective, but it sparked joy, so I did it.

    Then I went to work, accepting and handling things as they arose, even with a number that I hadn’t planned on needing to complete today.

    Go with the flow is something I do often, even when it’s stressful on busy days, with lots of things that interrupt other items I need to handle.