Tag: coping

  • Daily Coping 12 May 2021

    I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

    Today’s tip is to turn housework or chores into some fun form of exercise.

    Chores are a pain, and spring is hard. Lately I’ve had to take care of some grass and try to replant things. I was running my (new) aerator recently, and the dog joined me as we worked around a field for an hour.

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    Not much exercise, but after this I walked around, pushing a manual spreader. I put on soe music and danced a bit as I tried to make the best of walking back and forth in straight (ish) lines, dropping new grass seed.

  • Daily Coping 11 May 2021

    I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

    Today’s tip is to drink an extra glass or two of water today.

    Denver is a high desert, so this matters, but really this is something most of us could be better at in our lives. Our bodies could use more water, it refreshes is, cools us, can make us work (drink cold water), and can slow down our other eating and drinking.

    I used to drop 4 large water bottles on my desk every morning. Since I’ve started doing some things outside and going to the gym more, I’ve gotten out of the habit. This tip was a good reminder to me, and I drank and extra bottle, trying to get back to my gallon-a-day habit.

  • Daily Coping 10 May 2021

    I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

    Today’s tip is to listen to your body and be grateful for what it can do.

    I wasn’t great at listening to myself, physically or mentally, as a younger man. I pushed hard, I bulldozed through issues. I just moved on, ignoring issues.

    That worked OK as a younger person, but as an older man, that causes issues. While I do think movement helps get through some minor issues, I do need adjustments. A few examples recently.

    My ankle, the right one, is getting worse as I get older. I complained enough that my wife bought me a compression sleeve that I’ve carried in my laptop bag. My sister-in-law got me another one when I stopped using the laptop bag and forgot the brace on a trip. I put that one in my travel bag, which I do use for trips of all sorts.

    I was in Philadelphia a little over a month ago coaching. Our hotel was on the river and it was about a mile and a half uphill walk to the convention center. I wore my brace because I needed it. Walking up there to register was a little painful. My ankle ached. My wife noticed and got us an Uber on the way back, which I appreciated and accepted. Not something I’d have done years ago.

    I did wear the brace while coaching, which helped while standing on that hard cement floor. I also walked a bit more than I wanted, because my wife likes walking, but listened to my ankle and went slower.

    When we returned, I went back to yoga class, and a few times the ankle was sore and not too stable. Rather than do a one-legged mountain, I kick-standed my left foot against the right, allowing some work, but not too much.

    I appreciate what I can do, but I am listening more to my body.

  • Thanks Kathi and Mala

    I have to thank Kathi and Mala for putting on the WIT Mental Health and Wellness today today.  I was honored to present, but I was more glad that I got to watch most of the other presentations. I was glad they asked me, and to me, this was the best conference I’ve been to in many years.

    If you missed this, go watch these recordings. I was touched and emotional from the other presentations, as well as mine. Links should be available next week, so check their page.

    I overslept a bit, and actually woke up about 30 minutes before my talk. I was already nervous about this presentation, as it’s a bit of showing vulnerability for me, so I had a hard start to the morning. I went downstairs, checked in with Mala to verify the link and then went to get coffee and try to relax a touch.

    The presentation went fine for me, which is good, though I certainly had a lot of emotions while thinking back about the past year. I had a few tears in my eyes during the talk and was exhausted after. Fortunately, my boss was understanding and told me to just take it easy today. I had a few things to get done, and then watched a number of other talks before giving up in the early afternoon.

    I hit the gym (one of my coping tips), went to the store, and started cooking (another tip). Homemade lasagna and brookies (brownie cookies) for the family tonight.

    It helped me relax.