Tag: coping

Today’s coping tip is to offer to help someone who is facing difficulties now.

I’ve been very lucky in life. I find that success often has me associating with people who also have lots of success. Not always, but often.

Recently I had someone reach out to me, asking if I remembered another person from the past. I did and found out this person was getting laid off and was looking for a job. I told my friend to have them reach out to me, with permission to pass along my contact stuff.

I then offered to do some introductions with others, and see if there were potential opportunities. I sent a few messages, and I’m hoping one of them works out.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to look at life through someone else’s eyes and see their perspective.

I have my own views, beliefs, and thoughts about the world. However, I often do try and empathize and view things from others’ perspectives. I think that has been one of my strengths over the years, in that I don’t just consider my view.

As an example, since it’s on my mind. While working with a customer recently, we were discussing the way in which they use our Flyway Desktop product. For them, then use nomenclature and a workflow that isn’t always what our developers think about. They also have a chaotic environment where work isn’t always completed in order. Or there are emergencies that need to be addressed.

I’ve been in those situations, so I stop and imagine past situations, pressures from management, and more. I’ve used that view when I go back to our product developers and discuss the ways in which we want to ensure flexibility for our customers, and allow them to deal with complex situations.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to find out something new about someone you care about.

I took the time to do this at the recent PASS Summit. During events like this, I try to make time for new friends and also chat with longtime ones. I had the chance during one break to sit down with someone I’ve known for a long time. I don’t see them often, but I look forward to our meetings.

For the first time I got to learn a bit more about their family and life outside of work, as we’ve often just chatted about work. It was a nice break from a busy week and a fun time to spend time with someone I care about.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.