Tag: coping

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to make choices that have a positive impact for others today.

Making an impact for others can be with small or large things. Today, I’m choosing small things. I’m holding the door for others as I go in and out. I’m picking up dishes or glasses in the office for others and taking them to the dishwasher. I am ensuring I use please, thank you, and spend a few minutes chatting with people I don’t see often.

Small things, but they create an engagement and interest in others.

Note: I’m traveling today, so I see more people than I often do.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to remember an event in your life that was really meaningful.

We asked the volleyball team I was coaching to think of an impactful moment or day in their lives a few years ago. These were teenagers, so they had relatively few experiences to draw on, but some of the answers were interesting. The kids asked me as well, what was an impactful event.

For me, it was my wedding. We don’t pick our parents or children. We pick some of our friends, but they may come and go in our lives. However, we do pick our partner, and hopefully have a long time to enjoy a life with them.

My wife has been the most impactful person in my life, bringing me joy, love, and a wide range of emotions across the last 24 years since we made a commitment. I think about that day often, remembering it and how it changed my life for the better.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to share a quote you find inspiring to give others a boost.

“Get busy living or get busy dying.” — Stephen King

As I get older, I feel the weight of time and the pressure to enjoy life more and focus on what I experience rather than what I have. This quote reminds of of that. I want to pack more things into life rather than letting it pass me by.

This doesn’t mean I’m racing through a bucket list, though I am trying to do things that I find intriguing and interesting. However, more I want to engage in life with friends, appreciate the time with others, and enjoy it to the fullest extent.

Less time with a screen where I can and more time listening and talking with others. More time looking at the world around me and changing my view. More time doing things that make me smile with my wife and kids.

Those can be standing at the fence and watching horses.

It could be traveling to another country and staring at the vast sky in our world with my daughter.

It could be standing on a sideline and coaching kids on how to strive for something and compete with others.

This is about living life in a way that makes it better than it might be if you let it pass you by.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to recall three things you’ve done that you are proud of.

I hope there are a lot of things I’m proud of that I have had accomplished in my life. Here’s a quick list of the first few that come to mind.

1. SQL Server Central – What started as a way to help others and build a business (and hopefully make some $$$) turned into a passion and an enjoyable experience for me on  daily basis. The editorials started out as a way to spice things up and turned into a part of my life I enjoy immensely. However, the things I am most proud of here is helping people. I’ve gotten lots of notes about how people have learned and grown from the site, which makes me proud.

2. Fundraising – I’ve raised funds a few times for friends who were going through a tough time. I am proud that I was able to help someone in need.

3. A few projects, but I see these often as I move around the ranch or leave/come home. I know my wife appreciate these, and we certainly could have paid someone to do this, but I enjoyed the projects and had some time with my kids who helped build the shelters.

The horses use them in the winter. Apparently in the summer they’re too lazy to go inside.