Tag: coping

Today’s coping tip is to look for good in others, particularly when you feel frustrated.

We all deal with conflicts with others throughout out lives. How we handle those often says a lot about us. As I age, I try to avoid getting emotional and upset, reacting too quickly, and working to understand why someone said/acted/did something.

Today, I’m thinking about my dog. He’s a frustrating beast at times, growing out of puppy stage, but still young. He was a rescue/adoption and a nervous boy. He loves my wife, but he bonds well with all of us.

One of our struggles is leaving him at home. He mostly goes to work with my wife, but there are times where he’s at home and I or someone else needs to leave and he wants to follow their car. I was heading to the gym recently, and I had to turn around a couple times to put him back in the house. We don’t want to lock him in as he’s still getting housebroken, so we’ve been giving him a treat to keep him busy while we leave.

A frustrating period of time as I was trying to get gym time during a lunch break, but I had to remember how much this guy loves me and how often he makes me smile. He’s not trying to be frustrating. He just wants to be with me.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to thank someone and tell them how they made a difference for you.

I’ve had a lot of success in my life, as well as a lot of help along the way. I’ve worked hard, but by no mean has that meant I did things by myself. I think far too many people forget about the support they’ve had from others.

One person that made a difference in my life was a coach that my daughter had. He was a great coach for her life, but he inspired me as well. Like me, he had a daughter that played and then he started coaching. He wasn’t more than a casual volleyball player, but learned to be a really good coach and a wonderful human.

He taught me a lot, answering my questions, giving me guidance, and he was one of the people that got me thinking about coaching and then moving into that role. I let him know recently how much he changed my life.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to show an active interest by asking questions when talking to others.

I listen more and more these days. I’m trying to input less and hear more, while still being engaged.

However, I know that sometimes I need to carry my weight in a conversation and ensure people know I do care. I want to ask questions, but not those that put them on the defensive or imply judgment. Instead, I want curious questions.

While talking with a kid I coach about their weekend, about which they were very excited, I showed them enthusiasm, but I wanted to keep hearing about what this kid liked. So I asked about the best part, the parts they’re repeat, the reactions from others. Little questions to let them know I was listening and caring.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to send a message to let someone know you’re thinking of them.

I reached out a friend the other day, someone I know from the SQL Community, but I haven’t talked to for some time. Something made me think of them, so I just sent a note to see how they were doing and let them know.

Didn’t need anything, or want anything, just wanted to touch base. It was a nice feeling I felt from doing so.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.