Tag: coping

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to broaden your perspective: read something different.

I tend to read a lot of fiction. If I flip through this year’s GoodReads, I see mostly books to help me escape. I tend to alternate between sci-fi, legal, mysteries, and thrillers. I sprinkle in a few coaching books and business books.

One that I found different was Thanks for the Feedback. I’m in the middle of it now, and I didn’t really want to read it. A friend recommended it, as something that helped them grow. I don’t like reviews, but I decided this would be good for me.

I found the book to be very interesting. It helped me to think about how I communicate with others, and how I might say something that is received differently. It also helps me think about how to react when someone gives me feedback.

Quite a different read, but I’ve found it fascinating for me.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to connect with someone from a different generation.

I used to think of a different generation as being someone older than me. However, these days, I tend to think younger. I make it a point to do this regularly as I coach, taking time to do more than interact with kids on the court, but also asking them how they think and view the wider world.

However, I had the chance to talk to a few people recently at a technical event, and I took time to interact with someone much younger than me. Someone early in their career, who I asked questions and tried to understand the world as they see it. I got the chance to better understand what’s important to a younger person, which is vastly different than how I view the world.

I made it a point to talk about “I think I’d do this”, rather than offer advice, counseling, or opinions on how they view things. It was quite an enjoyable conversation.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to choose a different route and see what you notice along the way.

I tend to be a creature of routine. I got from point A to point B often and take the same route. I might vary a bit early on, trying to find an efficient route, but then tend to settle in.

I went down to Colorado Springs a few weeks ago for the user group lunch meeting, and decided to try a different route. I went down 83, but then cut over West at the Palmer Divide and enjoyed going through the rural areas. I’m amazed at how many new neighborhoods are tucked in the wilderness, just East of I-25. On the way home, I cut off from 83 into Russellville Road and saw the same thing.

On one hand, I wish there were less construction and building, but on the other, I’m glad to see properties still above 1 acre and spread out. I suspect the pandemic has made it easier for people to work from the country, and not lose a large portion of their day to a commute.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to try a new way to practice self-care and be kind to yourself.

I have tended to push myself to do more and more. It’s driven me, and it’s helped me be successful.

It also throws me a bit our of balance in life, and I don’t relax well. I’ve been working on that for the last decade plus.

Lately my body gets worn out or more tired. Parts hurt as I age. As a result, I’m learning to slow and take care of myself more. The other day, I was at yoga, and my ankle was acting up. Rather than push, I slowed down, I skipped some things, and I sat and sipped water, relaxing a bit.

I find myself doing that more often, caring for the things I can do that day and not being upset that I can’t do more. It’s helped me find a better mental balance.