Tag: life

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

Today’s tip is to take time to notice when someone is down and try to brighten their day.

In today’s world, it seems like every week someone isn’t doing well. I don’t contact a lot of people, but I certainly family and a few friends are sometimes not doing well.

Recently I reached out to one of my random people and they wrote back some texts, letting me know they were having a bad day. Actually a few bad days.

I went back and forth, offering support, but mostly just asking them to explain themselves, to talk (well, text), and unload a bit. I didn’t try to solve their problems, but I did make a few small jokes and spend time being engaged and available.

I think that helped.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

Today’s tip is to take time to forgive someone who hurt you in the past.

This is a personal item. I think many of us feel wronged or hurt by others, sometimes by accident, sometimes on purpose. In either case, the event can be very upsetting and impactful to us.

I don’t want to publicly note who I’m forgiving, but I am making it a point to do so, and let someone know that I forgive their past transgression.

This is certainly something I need to work on. There are people that I feel have treated me poorly, and I haven’t forgiven them. I should let some things go, but I am struggling, especially when some people don’t seem to acknowledge their actions.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

Today’s tip is to tell someone about a book or article you found helpful.

I go through a random collection of books and articles all the time. I read a lot, but mostly fiction, and it’s rare I pass along recommendations to others. However, I’ve seen some good articles that I sometimes pass along to friends or my kids.

Here’s one I sent on. It’s from David Perell and is titled, The Magic Moment. This talks about the creative process, and how you should go with it when you feel creativity is flowing. Don’t want and plan things, or reschedule them. When you feel ready to create something, spend the time right then to do so.

I sent this to a few people I know that are creative, but I think it applies to software developers as well. I know that when I feel like writing, I write. If I get in the zone writing some code, I’ll let me day fall apart and focus on that project. Usually that highly focused time is valuable.

Don’t make people go to meetings if they are productive elsewhere.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

Today’s tip is to cook your favorite food for someone who will appreciate it

My favorite food is pizza, and no one really appreciates it. Margaritas are second, but I’m not sure those count as cooking.

However, I do enjoy a number of foods, one of which is nachos. I don’t make them often, but I decided to end a week recently with a nice Friday night spread of nachos.

I skipped making guac this week, but I did do half shrimp and half beef, since I have some vegetarians.

A bit hit, quite enjoyable, and a nice way to end the week.