Tag: life

  • Daily Coping 14 Mar 2023

    Today’s coping tip is to notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words.

    I was downtown recently for a few days with my wife, staying in a hotel. We were busy, and we ended up eating our meals out, on the go, and sometimes in the convention center. We weren’t on a good schedule, and went too long without food at times. No gym time and a few too many drinks overall.

    I started to chastise myself a few times for the diet and habits on the go, but I stopped and gave myself a break. Instead, I reminded myself to accept that taking care of myself was hard, this was only a couple days, and I should enjoy the time with my wife and friends.

    Being kind to myself helped me cope with the change in routine.

    I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

  • Daily Coping 13 Mar 2023

    Today’s coping tip is to start today by appreciating your body and that you’re alive.

    I greatly appreciate my body today. I had a long weekend, with a lot of standing while coaching and everything felt tired and ache-y each morning. However, I’m getting moving with some gym time, with some better food, and I’m grateful that I can still do most of the things I want to do.

    I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

  • How Normal Is Your World?

    The last three years have felt like a bit of a time warp. I’ll run into someone or reach out to a friend, thinking that I haven’t talked to them in a year or two. Then I realize that it’s been 4 or 5 years because the 2020-2022 time frame felt like a year or less. A long year, but still, less than the three years that passed.

    Life is mostly back to normal for me, with travel, events, vacations, coaching, work, etc. all similar to the way things were in 2019. At the same time, I’ve changed and my life has changed. Some of this is aging, some is life moving on, but some is from the pandemic.

    Spending so much time remotely has me a little less patient or excited about small trips, even around town. I cook more and my family is more often at home. My adult kids enjoy spending time with my wife and me. I appreciate family and time off more, which was good. These are positives for me.

    Work is similar to 2019, but also different. Redgate is moving to a new, smaller office, and the culture of most people being there and eating lunch together is gone. We won’t have our SQL Servery in the new building, so I’ll be going out with friends, or bringing some sort of meal in when I’m at the office. I don’t like that.

    I still get to visit customers, and more so this year than in prior years, but there are a lot more Zoom meetings and short, quick engagements than in the past. That’s a good thing, and I find it exciting.

    At the same time, we have fewer events. Last year saw 18 SQL Saturdays, and we’re on pace to exceed that this year, but we’re far below the 100 a year from 2019, even adding in Data Saturdays and other events. Every event seems smaller than in the past, which is a bit disappointing for me.

    Some people still wear masks, signs from the pandemic are still posted, and I find people to both be better and worse. They are more enjoyable at times, but at other times displaying more anger, argument, and selfishness than before 2020.  It’s a weird mix, and I think the pandemic has people quicker to get upset at little things while being more tolerant in general. In general, the world feels normal to me, but slightly evolved from 2019.

    Is life back to normal for you? It mostly is for me, though with one big difference. I appreciate life more, the people, the trips, the time, it all means a bit more after spending a few years fairly isolated and limited in many ways.

    Let us know today.

    Steve Jones

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  • Daily Coping 10 Mar 2023

    Today’s coping tip is to notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world.

    I haven’t been outside a lot lately. It’s been cold and I’ve been busy working, coaching, and even traveling inside a lot. Not spending much time outside, so I had to stop and take a few minutes the other day.

    The things I noticed:

    1. After a light snow, the trees were sparkling with just a light coating of frost. Everything looked bright, clean, and fresh.
    2. The air, while cold, was crisp and refreshing. If you weren’t out too long. At 12F, it gets cold quickly.
    3. The sky was cloudy and gray, but bright in the early morning. This was at 6am and everything looked like a bright Ansel Adams print.

    I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.