Tag: advice

“A multitude of bad ideas is necessary for one good idea” – from Excellent Advice for Living

Whenever we read about the success of someone or something, we often get the impression that someone had a great idea and executed on it. Especially in computing, it can seem like it’s the trajectory of many of the companies we know well.

The reality is that a lot of companies have various bad ideas and then discover one working well. They pivot into the one good idea. Microsoft started writing programming languages and then pivoted to providing DOS. Netflix went from DVD rentals to streaming.

The reality is that often we have lots of ideas and it can be hard to decide what a good idea is. That’s why we brainstorm, why we game, debate, and discuss options. We don’t have any hindsight when we are trying to move in a new direction, so we need to come up with various ideas to find a great one. Artists do this, musicians do this, plenty of creative people do this.

I used to want to try and wait to have a great idea before discussing it with others. Andy Warren taught me to just throw things out there and then examine them with others.

I’ve been posting New Words on Fridays from a book I was reading, however, a friend thought they were a little depressing. They should be as they are obscure sorrows. I like them because they make me think.

To counter-balance those, I’m adding in thoughts on advice, mostly from Kevin Kelley’s book. You can read all these posts under the advice tag.

“The foundation of maturity: Just because it’s not your fault doesn’t mean it’s not your responsibility.” – from Excellent Advice for Living

I’ve worked with a lot of people who are growing and learning into something new. This could be with my kids, kids I coach, or people at work. Often when we’re learning, or we attempt something in our jobs, we make mistakes. Sometimes those aren’t our fault, as some external factor might impact our effort.

However.

I’m still responsible for things. If someone doesn’t produce a good query and slows the system down, I still might be responsible if it’s the system I am managing. If a junior DBA doesn’t check somethings clients complaint to the lead DBA (me), I am likely still responsible.

I find people often conflate these things together. You might be both at fault and responsible, but in my mind, you should feel responsibility more often than you look at fault (or blame). If someone on my team messes up, it’s often not my fault, but I still feel responsibility. After all, we’re a team. That’s what a team does.

Don’t avoid responsibility. In fact, take on a bit more than others might want. Don’t be responsible for everything, but just a bit more than others would. It’s great advice that helps you stand out, and often, succeed.

I’ve been posting New Words on Fridays from a book I was reading, however, a friend thought they were a little depressing. They should be as they are obscure sorrows. I like them because they make me think.

To counter-balance those, I’m adding in thoughts on advice, mostly from Kevin Kelley’s book. You can read all these posts under the advice tag.

“Don’t aim to have others like you; aim to have them respect you.” – from Excellent Advice for Living

This is an interesting piece of advice. It’s easy to look at this and think, no, that’s not what I want, but remember that these two things are not mutually exclusive. People can respect and like you. However, for many things in life, you really want respect more than link.

When I coach, respect is more important. At work, respect is more important. In relationships, they’re probably equal.

Respect means that people listen to you, treat you well, give weight and consideration to your words, actions, and feelings.

I like some people, but don’t respect them. I might enjoy spending time with them, but our relationship is more for leisure and fun. We don’t really have anything of significance between us. We can just enjoy time.

Your goal is respect.

I’ve been posting New Words on Fridays from a book I was reading, however, a friend thought they were a little depressing. They should be as they are obscure sorrows. I like them because they make me think.

To counter-balance those, I’m adding in thoughts on advice, mostly from Kevin Kelley’s book. You can read all these posts under the advice tag.

“On the way to a grand goal, celebrate the smallest victories as if each one were the final goal. That way, no matter where it ends, you are victorious.” – from Excellent Advice for Living

I believe in celebrating small things. I am a big “smell the roses” and “celebrate your success” even if the bigger part of the success feels like a failure. If I deliver a good demo in a talk, or one of my players makes a good hit/pass/etc., let’s celebrate that. If the rest of the talk wasn’t smooth and people are confused, or we kept hitting the ball in the net, that’s a bit of a failure and something to work on.

There’s always a bright side and a dim side. One is likely larger, but both are there.

I think if we look at something in black and white terms, and reduce it to success or failure, then you create a psychology that you win or something wasn’t worth doing. The sports teams, the musicians, the friends I have, my kids, we aren’t defined by whether we win every time. We can’t be the best all the time.

Even the best of the best isn’t the best most of the time. Tom Brady (7 rings) and Michael Jordan (6 rings) might be considered the best at what they did. However, they played more years (Brady 23, Jordan 15). Were they failures those other years?

The Beatles had 19 #1 albums, the most of all time. However, they released more. They had lots of #1 songs, but plenty that didn’t get to #1. Were those not worth doing?

Celebrate your success. You might write a great query, but ultimately there are plenty others that don’t perform well or some might even return the wrong results. Hopefully you’ll fix and improve those, but celebrate the things that go well.

Work on those that don’t and turn them into victories later.

I’ve been posting New Words on Fridays from a book I was reading, however, a friend thought they were a little depressing. They should be as they are obscure sorrows. I like them because they make me think.

To counter-balance those, I’m adding in thoughts on advice, mostly from Kevin Kelley’s book. You can read all these posts under the advice tag.