Tag: advice

Fear is fueled by a lack of imagination. The antidote to fear is not bravery; it looks more like imagination – from Excellent Advice for Living

What a neat way to look at things. Most of us have fear. I have fear all the time. I fear illness as I age (or injury), I fear failure at work, I have fear before new presentations. I do think that bravery is just pushing down your fear and continuing on in the face of it.

I certainly don’t think brave people get rid of fear. Maybe they get used to it and it feels less impactful.

However, I haven’t thought about imagination. Though, I do sometimes confront people’s concerns with advice or a suggestion to think it through. It seems often that people afraid of things have too much imagination. They consider, or assign a likelihood score to things that is too high. Most of the time the worst thing isn’t likely to happen, but we fear it.

I do think that if you imagine positively, then perhaps you have less fear. If you look for the good, the opportunity, then you have less fear.

I I’ve been posting New Words on Fridays from a book I was reading, however, a friend thought they were a little depressing. They should be as they are obscure sorrows. I like them because they make me think.

To counter-balance those, I’m adding in thoughts on advice, mostly from Kevin Kelley’s book. You can read all these posts under the advice tag.

Don’t reserve your kindest praise for a person until their eulogy. Tell them while they are alive when it makes a difference to them. Write it in a letter they can keep. – from Excellent Advice for Living

This is something I try to do more. Not the letters, though that’s not a bad idea, but I find myself reaching out with short messages or thoughts (text, FB, etc.) to touch base with people. Friends, sometimes people I see often, sometimes people I see rarely.

In either case, as I age, I realize life is getting shorter and I ought to try and ensure I communicate more with people I care about.

I I’ve been posting New Words on Fridays from a book I was reading, however, a friend thought they were a little depressing. They should be as they are obscure sorrows. I like them because they make me think.

To counter-balance those, I’m adding in thoughts on advice, mostly from Kevin Kelley’s book. You can read all these posts under the advice tag.

Learn how to take a 20-minute power nap without embarassment. – from Excellent Advice for Living

I don’t like naps. In fact, I try to avoid them and keep going, even when I’m tired. I’d rather power through things and then go to bed early and get rest.

That being said, there are some times when traveling that I’ve decided to just give in and nap. Turn off distractions, leave my phone out of reach, and just sleep. I’ve even done that a few times during the work week at home when I’m exhausted. Getting 20-30 minutes of rest can be refreshing.

If I sleep. Sometimes I end up laying there and not sleeping and then I feel like I’ve wasted my time.

This is good advice, and I should follow it more often, not just when land multiple time zones away from home.

I’ve been posting New Words on Fridays from a book I was reading, however, a friend thought they were a little depressing. They should be as they are obscure sorrows. I like them because they make me think.

To counter-balance those, I’m adding in thoughts on advice, mostly from Kevin Kelley’s book. You can read all these posts under the advice tag.

Don’t let someone else’s urgency becomes your emergency. In fact, don’t be governed by the urgent of any sort. Focus on the important. The urgent is a tyrant. – from Excellent Advice for Living

I try to set my life up to be fairly relaxed. A little chaotically busy, but relaxed. I try to stay ahead of work, plan things, get them prepped, and beat my milestones, at work or at home.

However.

As some people might say, life happens. Others might use a different 4 letter word, but I’ve liked life. As John Lennon says: Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.

I do try to help others and accommodate them, but another’s emergency isn’t mine. I am here for support, and to listen, but encroaching on my wallet or my time is something I have to choose to give you. Sometimes I might, but sometimes I might not. Ultimately. I don’t want to get jerked around by others, at work or in life.

I try to remember what’s important, which might not be someone else’s thing. This might mean previous plans take precedence. Or it might mean that I decide to help with your emergency. The important thing is the important thing.

I’ve been posting New Words on Fridays from a book I was reading, however, a friend thought they were a little depressing. They should be as they are obscure sorrows. I like them because they make me think.

To counter-balance those, I’m adding in thoughts on advice, mostly from Kevin Kelley’s book. You can read all these posts under the advice tag.