Tag: coping

I’ve started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

Today’s tip is to remember that if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.

The last couple weeks I’ve been struggling a bit. Not as badly as in late March and April, but the sameness, the lack of travel and changing my environment has been tough on me mentally. I enjoy coaching, and have been getting to the gym 2-3 times a week, but I think I’m struggling with the realization that this isn’t going to get better after summer. We’re in this for the rest of this year.

I knew that, but it’s sinking in. I can’t change that.

I’m trying to remind myself that this isn’t that bad, there are people in worse situations, and things could be worse. I have a family, some financial security, and I have more time to do things around the house, chores and hobbies, than in the past. I should appreciate the this change in the world gives me some things that I’ve wished for in the past.

That helps, though I think I need to keep reminding myself to change my view on a regular basis.

I’ve started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

Today’s tip is to make a list of three things that you can feel hopeful about.

1. Success against COVID

There are a number of drug trials showing some early success, but more importantly, there are a number of trials. We, as a world species, are trying lots of things. Hopefully something works and we share.

2. We can exercise with masks

Colorado implemented a mask order just after a volleyball practice a couple weeks ago. My gym for working out, and the one for coaching, both adhered to this. I held a practice after this, and the sixteen 13/14 year old girls wore their masks without complaint. They got pulled down once in awhile, but for the most part they wore them.

At the same time, I see lots, most people, in my workout gym wearing masks while working out. I tried it while lifting, and while not something I like, it’s not that bad.

3. My daughter will hang out longer

My daughter is a starting volleyball player in college. Last year, other than a couple matches missed for injury, she played every point as a freshman. It was quite exciting, traveling to watch her play live in New York, as well as streaming games from London, Sydney, and around the US. I was really looking forward to that again.

However, her conference suspended fall sports. They might move to spring, but for now, no sports. As a result, she is thinking that she doesn’t want to go back for the fall. It’s a lot of money, and if she can’t hang out with friends and is watching a screen, she would rather stay here, save some money, which might get her another season of play, and work for my wife.

I like having her around.

I’ve started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

Today’s tip is to ask yourself: What’s the best thing that can happen?

That’s a good question. I can take this lots of ways. The best thing for the world? We get a very effective vaccine this year.

The best thing for me? My family stays healthy and can enjoy life.

The best thing today? I get to practice yoga, no part of my body aches, I eat some good food and spend a nice evening with my wife.

Keep things in perspective. I’m aiming for the last one today and focusing on that.

I’ve started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

Today’s tip is to let go of small stuff and focus on the things that matter.

This week I was a bit frustrated with my break from work. In Colorado our Governor implemented a mandatory mask order at the end of last week. All indoor activities around people need masks. My gym complied, and I couldn’t workout without one, even with no one around. Yoga was with a mask, and that was less than fun. Coaching was masks covering everyone, including kids, who didn’t enjoy it.

In fact, less kids decided to come, which is less fun for me, and less fun for them. In a time when so many are stuck without routines and interactions, sports were a good release. With most of us in a closed group, we were enjoying playing again, but that had to stop.

However, that’s fine. What matters is we try and get this virus under control. Colorado was doing very well, and my area still is not bad, but with cases creeping up, this is a small thing to think about. It’s a small annoyance, and minor loss, and ultimately, that’s I should be focused on helping to keep public health at a more healthy level.