Tag: coping

I’ve started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

When things go wrong, be compassionate to yourself.

For the most part things have gone well for me that last few months. However, there have been a few bumps in the road, which are minor in the scheme of things, but they don’t always feel that way in the moment.

I was doing some furniture movement around the house recently and I hurt my back. It was slightly strained, and really needed a couple days of rest to heal. I hate laying in bed for too long, and I hate not getting things done.

This item actually came from my wife, who reminded me to relax and take care of myself, accepting limits for a couple days.

I did, and I feel better. It wasn’t easy, but I consumed some video, practiced some Duolingo on my phone, and read a lot. It was a good break, even if it was unwanted.

I’ve started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

Today’s tip is to find an action you can take to overcome a problem or worry.

I have plenty of small problems, and mostly small worries. However, I recognize and appreciate how lucky I am with family, health, security, especially compared with many in life.

As a result, I try to keep things in perspective. One of the concerns I do have is contributing to a growing number of cases in the US. I have started coaching again as Colorado looks to open up, but I’m still worried.

I’ve tried to think about how to be more careful, avoiding talking directly at someone, wearing a mask more often, keeping my hands and equipment clean. It’s not perfect, but there are things I can do in my control to try and be more careful.

I’ve started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

Today I’m asking you to adopt a growth mindset. Change “I can’t” into “I can’t… yet””.”

This might seem silly and simple, but changing your attitude often results in a big change in the way you approach something and it can increase your mental health.

I can’t fly internationally or go to an office, yet.

That’s hopeful. It helps me realize this isn’t a permanent situation, but one that will change. I’ll get to go visit my Redgate colleagues, and I’ll get to go present at a conference in front of a live audience.

Just not yet.

I’ve started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here.

Today’s tip is to  make a list of things you’re looking forward to doing during a break from work.

When you’re working at home, it’s important to take breaks. I’ve gotten pretty good at not sitting at my desk all day, but it’s easy for me since I don’t work with others too often. As a result, I can flex work.

My short list during workdays is:

• exercise
• cooking

I will often take a few minutes after finishing some task to tackle a chore, or take a slightly longer break to set up lunch or dinner or exercise. My gym is open, and I go 2-3 times a week, but mostly continue to work out at home.

A better list might be what I will do on a vacation day. For those, I have another camping trip booked, taking a few days off. I’m also looking forward to skiing, which looks possible this winter.