Tag: coping

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to share an encouraging news story to inspire others.

The drought is receding a bit in Colorado. I personally am concerned because we have land and fire is always a danger. Plus more drought means less hay, which means more $$$ for the hay we buy. It’s already near an all time high, so hoping more rain eases the situation a bit for the third cutting.

Also, COVID is declining. No matter how you view the pandemic, having less cases and hospitalizations means that we open more things and more people get back to their normal, 2019-era, lives.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to check in with someone who may be lonely or feeling anxious.

I check in with my Mom regularly, as she does live alone. However, she’s not usually anxious about things. On the other hand, I have had a friend that has struggled the last few years. Some health issues, some employment challenges, and then personal struggles. I’ve made it a point to periodically just reach out.

I did this again this week, just to see how they were feeling and if they were coping with life. I don’t think they’re lonely or anxious anymore, but it’s good to check.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to thank someone you’re grateful to and tell them why.

One of the things I’ve seen recently is a thank you series from Grant, letting people know how he appreciates them in his life. I like that, and he’s made some nice choices. All of those people have impacted my life as well.

While I have many people, I’m choosing one for this post. Erin Stellato is someone I’ve known a long time. I don’t know exactly when we met, but I have many memories:

• Being a gracious host at a Cleveland SQL Saturday and hanging out with her and her daughter by the slide in the building.
• Sitting in the lobby of the Seattle convention center chatting about something SQL Server.
• Doing yoga together in a class before some event
• Skiing with her family and grandfather in Colorado
• running through the streets of Bellevue in the morning before the MVP Summit

Lately, however, I’m really grateful for some counsel from her on diversity and harassment issues. These are not pervasive, but they are present in the SQL Community (and others). My perspective and view is limited, and I have asked others for help in finding a way forward to prevent future incidents. Erin has been great about listening and give me things to think about.

I’m really grateful for her help on a very difficult topic.

I’m also grateful for her friendship and hope we find time for some future yoga, skiing, or some other fun activity.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to make some tasty food for someone who will appreciate it.

My daughter left for college last week. A few days before she left, I asked her what she might like for dinner. She is gluten sensitive, so while I can cook a lot of things, I often need to modify or prepare things for her.

She asked for a few things, which I enjoy cooking and the rest of the family enjoys. We did a tasty Greek dinner:

• Kebabs
• Chicken Souvlaki
• Greek salad (I held tomatoes from part of this, as she doesn’t like them)
• Pita, regular and GF

I also made pineapple sorbet, which everyone enjoyed.