Tag: coping

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to set an intention to be kind to others and yourself this week.

This week I’m traveling to Redmond and Los Angeles. I will encounter service people in restaurants, drivers for taxis, airport workers, and many attendees at events. My wife is also going to LA with me to enjoy a weekend together after SQL Saturday Los Angeles 2022.

I am making a conscious effort today to be kind to others, let small things go, be empathetic and understanding. I’m also going to remember that this will be extra time and stress out of my week and I need to ensure I eat well, find some time to exercise, and relax when I can.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to be a realistic optimist. Focus on what could go right.

I find a lot of people think ahead and get concerned about the downsides. What could go wrong? They find reasons to not do something.

Of course, there are others that a few that leap first and worry about issues later.

I tend to be in the first group, though I’ve learned to recognize when I’m not being optimistic, when I am letting fear drive me. That has helped me to have confidence in most things going right.

Which they do. Most of the time things work out fairly well.

I’m trying to do this with SQL Saturday. I’m hopeful for the future and events, and understanding when people are hesitant. However, I am confident that more organizers will run events and more people will want to come to live in-person events.

I’m being optimistic, knowing that this doesn’t apply to everyone and I have empathy for the reality.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to write down three things you are grateful for today.

I’m grateful for a lot of things, but the things that stand out today.

1. My kids are happy with us parents. They are all at home this summer, though the older two are living with us for the foreseeable future. We love that, and love having them around for dinner, movies, or just some conversation. They seem to enjoy being around us, which at 23 and 30 is not something I see often with others.

2. My health. I’ve had a couple minor things with health, but fairly minor. Those issues have prevented me from much gym/yoga/walking time for a couple months. I appreciate more and more my health and the things I can do (and I’m looking forward to).

3. The Tesla. I’m lucky that I can afford a car like this. Every time I drive it, it’s a fun experience. I can cruise easily, or I can make my stomach jump by pushing hard on the acceleration.

Lots more, but those are on the forefront of my mind today.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to choose to see something good about what has gone wrong.

Recently we had to replace our refrigerator. The old one, well, not really old. Four years old, but it died. The manufacturer couldn’t fix it, so they have us a settlement that we used to buy a new one.

However. It was a pain. We had to get a new one before we got money for the old one. We had to keep the old one around until we heard from the company, and we ended up throwing out some food.

There were some good things that came out of this:

We cleaned the fridge out and a number of things that were thrown away weren’t needed or haven’t been something we thought to replace.

This spurred me to spend time getting generator maintenance scheduled. Something didn’t work right at the end of the winter, and I’ve been wanting to get this going again.

This also helped me appreciate how lucky we are. We had an old fridge in the garage that we could use for some things. A pain to go outside and get things and take them back, but that’s a first world problem. I tried to remind the family of that.