Tag: coping

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to connect with someone near you, share a smile or chat.

One of the things I learned early in life is that being friendly isn’t hard. Waving, smiling, saying “hi”, aren’t things I always see in the city, but in suburban and rural areas, this happens more.

I also find myself being a little annoyed with myself if I’ve made eye contact and not been the first one to be friendly.

I had a massage recently, and the masseur wanted to talk, so I engaged and spent time getting to know him. I smiled, looked at him (as best I could), and listened to his thoughts. It was an interesting discussion, and even when I might disagree with something, I resisted an impulse to argue and instead just kept a pleasant chat going.

Surprisingly, I enjoyed the hour.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to take a different route and see what you notice.

This has been an easy one for me through the last two years. I am a creature of habit, but I like exploring a bit when I have time. Without being pressed to get things done, I decided to head to the gym along a different route.

I skipped my usual turn out of my county and headed down to the next neighborhood. A vet we used to use is on this street, which is how I know it will cut through to a route along the highway. It’s a quiet, pleasant drive, and will take me to the back side of the gym.

It’s neat to see how the neighborhood has changed and also stayed the same. This is an older house that I remember driving by, with the small windmill. Lots of these still around.

Some new ones as well. Wish there was more open space, but I completely understand someone wanting this view.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to get moving; do something active today.

I’m on a gym kick. My Jan 3 coping tip was to make a resolution for the month, and I picked exercise. I strained a calf muscle over New Years, but started moving again on the 4th.

I missed a day, but I’ve been doing a good job since. Mostly inside as there has been wind and some cooler weather, so I’m doing a bit more than usual today. It’s a lifting day, but I’m going to add in 30 minutes on the bike to push my heart and lungs a bit.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to learn something new and share it with others.

That’s most of my job, learning things and helping others. I’m going to continue today, though today I am going to share something different.

From the Feedback book I’m reading, there was a very interesting chapter on how we sort our feedback (think of the Harry Potter Sorting Hat). Do we sort towards evaluation or coaching? It seems most people tend to lean one way or the other. Not always, but it’s a tendency. When someone says something to us, or about us, this is a kind if feedback. “You might do it like this instead” or “That outfit is a little casual”.

Do we take this as evaluation (judgment)? Or coaching, meaning they think we might not be aware of something. It could be meant either way, but the way we receive it impacts us. I know I tend towards evaluation, but an exercise in the book said to think about the item both ways before reacting.

No matter what you decide to do, the exercise is interesting and helps temper my internal feelings.