Tag: coping

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to take time to reflect on what you accomplished this week.

I’m writing about last week because if I delay this until Friday morning, or Thur afternoon, I’ll forget to do it. So, Oct 25-Oct 31.

It was a busy week. Really the last stressful week with a bunch of deadlines for the next month, at least, I hope that’s the case. Here’s a list of things that happened last week:

• Record a presentation
• Review another presentation that was recorded in a group with comments for the editor
• Schedule a bunch of social media stuff
• Deliver a sales presentation on our products
• Organize a few things I want to read through for learning (the actual learning is for next week)
• Rehearse a presentation
• Deliver a live presentation (SQL Saturday Orlando 2021)
• Get on a plane, have a few dinners and breakfast with friends, and fly home. Actually got some work done on a plane.
• Write (or really, finish) 5 editorials.
• Watch a marketing presentation and give feedback (I didn’t expect this to be interesting)
• Renewed my driver’s license
• Watched a few kids I coached last year at their last high school game
• Hold a first practice with kids starting their new season with me
• Get to yoga 3 times, lift twice, ride the elliptical once and walk once
• Cook 5 dinners for the family
• Cut some grass, and cut down a tree that I’ve been meaning to clear all summer
• Learn part of a new song on guitar

I know I did more little stuff, but this came to mind.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to sign up for a new course, activity, or community.

Not everything is work, and I am a member of plenty of work related things. I actually started looking at a new course for some work tasks.

However, I also want to engage in other ways throughout the rest of my life. This wasn’t today, but I signed up with a coaching group a few months back. It was a chance to grow my knowledge, skills, and thoughts about how I interact with kids and work with them.

As with a lot of groups, it’s been up and down. Lots of whining from people, and lots of complaints about things. Plenty of irrelevant chats, from my perspective. I don’t work with high school, so those aren’t applicable to me.

However, I’ve gone from a lurker, trying to learn from others, to a participant, offering my thoughts or observations from my experience. While it hasn’t been that long for me, I have been coaching for about 6 years in this way, so I’ve learned a few things.

It’s been an interesting addition to my life. I don’t spend a lot of time there, and not very regularly, but I am glad I made the effort.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to set a goal that brings a sense of purpose for the coming months.

Purpose, along with autonomy and mastery, are important for us in our endeavors. At work, I find purpose in educating others or helping them set up events. I also find purpose in helping teams better build and deploy database changes, as this means better software for all of us.

At home, I find purpose in helping my wife with her business on the ranch and by working with youth and teaching them to grow up through sports.

My goal across the next few months is to guide a series of athletes to find purpose in their futures. I am working with 16 year olds this year, so less teaching of them how to play a game, but more in finding direction for the rest of high school and looking forward to college. Teaching them to think more about the game and their approach, as opposed to worrying more about physical skills.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to identify three things that give you hope for the future.

I have a lot of hope for the future. Here are three recent things that make me believe the world will be better in 2022 than 2021.

First, going to a live conference was great for me. I had another one last week, SQL Saturday Orlando 2021, and I have two more on my future schedule. While the movement for many free events seems slow and tentative, I am hopeful that we’ll start to see more SQL Saturdays or Data Saturdays in 2022.

Second, kids sports seem to be working well, and that’s an important hobby for me. I’m hopeful after coaching during the pandemic last year that my efforts will look more normal this year.

Third, I’m both surprised and pleased by the number of people around the world and in various countries getting vaccinated. I’m also pleased that many private organizations are starting to require proof of vaccination or a negative test. Those types of efforts will go a long way towards moving us to normality and a better future.