Tag: coping

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to avoid saying “I should” and make time to do nothing.

Today is quarantine day for me. I’m in Belgium, actually, who knows. I flew to London overnight, then a trip to Brussels. I have to test and quarantine until I get results, so this is really a day of travel and doing nothing.

My wife and I will likely just relax in the airport between flights and then relax in a hotel in Brussels, avoiding trying to do work or get things accomplished. I’ll likely even avoid any exercise with the quarantine and long travels. If I have results and feel better in the evening, maybe I’ll walk or lightly exercise, but overall, I want to have a day of rest.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to accept yourself and remember you are worthy of love.

This is one of those tough things for me. I’m definitely a giver, and with history as someone that grew up in a broken home, I’m usually more concerned with others than myself. I also sometimes question if I deserve something.

Over time, I’ve learned that no matter how I feel, I am worthy of being loved and cared for. I still struggle, but I constantly remind me of this.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to let go of other people’s expectations of you.

I really try to live my own life, as I want to live it with my wife. The goal is to think about, and choose, those things that matter to us, not to others. This sometimes means that others might feel I haven’t made good choices and that can be hard. However, I do work to find confidence that I am making the decisions that are important to me and my wife.

I try to teach kids I coach to approach life like this as well. Find out who you are and do the things that matter to you.

This doesn’t mean you avoid responsibilities and accountability for actions. Instead, this means that you accept those while navigating the life that you want to build. In your career, in relationships, with family, with friends, and in your community.

Embrace life, but make it your life, not anyone else’s.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to not compare how you feel inside to how others feel outside.

One of the things I’ve learned in my life is that many times other project a much different view of their life than they feel. I notice I do the same thing. I might appear happy or joyous when I’m not feeling that way inside. I may be full of stress, anxiety, concern, or some other negative feeling from life.

If I deliver a presentation or go to a public space, I may not show those feelings.

In this age of social media where it seems others are loving life, having success, and doing fun things that you envy, it’s easy to think their life is better than yours. This might be exacerbated in your mind when you aren’t enjoying life. You might feel you are unworthy or much less successful/capable/satisfied/etc. in life than others.

Remember that you don’t really know how others are doing, even if they are your close friends. You may not even realize how your family members truly feel.

Focus on yourself, which is what I try to do more often. I may look at the things others do as ideas for my own life, but I try very hard not to make comparisons.