I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.
Today’s tip is to let go of other people’s expectations of you.
I really try to live my own life, as I want to live it with my wife. The goal is to think about, and choose, those things that matter to us, not to others. This sometimes means that others might feel I haven’t made good choices and that can be hard. However, I do work to find confidence that I am making the decisions that are important to me and my wife.
I try to teach kids I coach to approach life like this as well. Find out who you are and do the things that matter to you.
This doesn’t mean you avoid responsibilities and accountability for actions. Instead, this means that you accept those while navigating the life that you want to build. In your career, in relationships, with family, with friends, and in your community.
Embrace life, but make it your life, not anyone else’s.