Tag: life

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to let go of other people’s expectations of you.

I really try to live my own life, as I want to live it with my wife. The goal is to think about, and choose, those things that matter to us, not to others. This sometimes means that others might feel I haven’t made good choices and that can be hard. However, I do work to find confidence that I am making the decisions that are important to me and my wife.

I try to teach kids I coach to approach life like this as well. Find out who you are and do the things that matter to you.

This doesn’t mean you avoid responsibilities and accountability for actions. Instead, this means that you accept those while navigating the life that you want to build. In your career, in relationships, with family, with friends, and in your community.

Embrace life, but make it your life, not anyone else’s.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to not compare how you feel inside to how others feel outside.

One of the things I’ve learned in my life is that many times other project a much different view of their life than they feel. I notice I do the same thing. I might appear happy or joyous when I’m not feeling that way inside. I may be full of stress, anxiety, concern, or some other negative feeling from life.

If I deliver a presentation or go to a public space, I may not show those feelings.

In this age of social media where it seems others are loving life, having success, and doing fun things that you envy, it’s easy to think their life is better than yours. This might be exacerbated in your mind when you aren’t enjoying life. You might feel you are unworthy or much less successful/capable/satisfied/etc. in life than others.

Remember that you don’t really know how others are doing, even if they are your close friends. You may not even realize how your family members truly feel.

Focus on yourself, which is what I try to do more often. I may look at the things others do as ideas for my own life, but I try very hard not to make comparisons.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to enjoy photos from a time with happy memories.

Last year in June, during the lockdown, I had all my kids with my when we went camping in South Dakota:

The June before we were all in New Zealand, looking out towards Antarctica from Dunedin.

The June before that, 2018, we went to the Painted Mine park in Colorado:

Two years before that, we were camping in Grand Lake and riding horses.

June memories have been good. Not sure why I picked that month, but those photos came to mind recently.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to make some plans to do something you find enjoyable this weekend.

This is the time of year that is a bit hectic. More travel and trying to prep the ranch for winter.

However, I actually have a couple of things to do this weekend. First, I’m aiming to take a couple hours and go watch some volleyball. A couple of the kids I’ll coach this year are playing each other in high school Saturday, so I’m going over.

Second, my cousin is in town, and I’m going to take some time to meet with him and catch up.

Not as productive a weekend as I’d like, but I’m going to enjoy the time with others and then get to work around those items.