Tag: life

Today’s coping tip is to appreciate the good qualities of someone in your life.

We have a person in Redgate that does a lot of work to support our sales process. This individual has been a force for producing resources that many people, including myself use.

I don’t want to name them publicly, but I really appreciate the work ethic, the flexibility, the willingness to learn, to admin mistakes, to go the extra mile, the friendliness, and the enthusiasm.

There’s more, but these are the top ones I appreciate.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to support a local business with a positive online review or friendly message.

When I discover a business I like or one that delivers value or joy, I have been trying to leave a review or message online. This is how many people find new businesses, and the local ones can always use support.

Santortas is a local restaurant near me that I love. Their breakfast burritos are amazing. My only complaint is they don’t open until 9, so it’s mostly a weekend treat for me. I wish I could get one at 7 when I go skiing. I left them a review on Google.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to focus on being kind rather than being right.

This is one of the things that grows my wisdom over time. I don’t need to be right anymore, at least not often. I can try to guide and assist without winning over colleagues, friends, family, etc.

One of my kids was having a bad time, and it was because of a poor decision on their part. Rather than try to make sure they knew the problem, or that I knew it, I tried to support and listen.

It is helpful for me to remember that I’m really responsible for myself, and somewhat my wife, but no one else. That includes my adult kids.

This is a good coping skill that reduces stress in my life, when I can support, offer, assist, but not take ownership or become invested in another’s decision or action.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to look for good in others, particularly when you feel frustrated.

We all deal with conflicts with others throughout out lives. How we handle those often says a lot about us. As I age, I try to avoid getting emotional and upset, reacting too quickly, and working to understand why someone said/acted/did something.

Today, I’m thinking about my dog. He’s a frustrating beast at times, growing out of puppy stage, but still young. He was a rescue/adoption and a nervous boy. He loves my wife, but he bonds well with all of us.

One of our struggles is leaving him at home. He mostly goes to work with my wife, but there are times where he’s at home and I or someone else needs to leave and he wants to follow their car. I was heading to the gym recently, and I had to turn around a couple times to put him back in the house. We don’t want to lock him in as he’s still getting housebroken, so we’ve been giving him a treat to keep him busy while we leave.

A frustrating period of time as I was trying to get gym time during a lunch break, but I had to remember how much this guy loves me and how often he makes me smile. He’s not trying to be frustrating. He just wants to be with me.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.