Tag: life

Today’s coping tip is to thank someone and tell them how they made a difference for you.

I’ve had a lot of success in my life, as well as a lot of help along the way. I’ve worked hard, but by no mean has that meant I did things by myself. I think far too many people forget about the support they’ve had from others.

One person that made a difference in my life was a coach that my daughter had. He was a great coach for her life, but he inspired me as well. Like me, he had a daughter that played and then he started coaching. He wasn’t more than a casual volleyball player, but learned to be a really good coach and a wonderful human.

He taught me a lot, answering my questions, giving me guidance, and he was one of the people that got me thinking about coaching and then moving into that role. I let him know recently how much he changed my life.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to show an active interest by asking questions when talking to others.

I listen more and more these days. I’m trying to input less and hear more, while still being engaged.

However, I know that sometimes I need to carry my weight in a conversation and ensure people know I do care. I want to ask questions, but not those that put them on the defensive or imply judgment. Instead, I want curious questions.

While talking with a kid I coach about their weekend, about which they were very excited, I showed them enthusiasm, but I wanted to keep hearing about what this kid liked. So I asked about the best part, the parts they’re repeat, the reactions from others. Little questions to let them know I was listening and caring.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to send a message to let someone know you’re thinking of them.

I reached out a friend the other day, someone I know from the SQL Community, but I haven’t talked to for some time. Something made me think of them, so I just sent a note to see how they were doing and let them know.

Didn’t need anything, or want anything, just wanted to touch base. It was a nice feeling I felt from doing so.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to write down your hopes or plans for the future.

Hopes are vague, and plans are easier, so here are some plans:

1. Plan a trip to South America or Japan for 2023
2. Go back to Italy with my wife this year
3. Move back to coaching younger kids
4. Rebuild a generator shed around the ranch
5. Learn to patch concrete

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.