Today’s coping tip is to focus on being kind rather than being right.

This is one of the things that grows my wisdom over time. I don’t need to be right anymore, at least not often. I can try to guide and assist without winning over colleagues, friends, family, etc.

One of my kids was having a bad time, and it was because of a poor decision on their part. Rather than try to make sure they knew the problem, or that I knew it, I tried to support and listen.

It is helpful for me to remember that I’m really responsible for myself, and somewhat my wife, but no one else. That includes my adult kids.

This is a good coping skill that reduces stress in my life, when I can support, offer, assist, but not take ownership or become invested in another’s decision or action.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.