Tag: life

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

Today’s tip is to see how many different people you can smile at today.

I often wave and smile at people when I drive around my neighborhood. I smile and wave at people in town, especially kids. I don’t seem to meet a lot of people these days, and with masks, I can’t always let someone know I’ve smiled or see if they smile back.

I can, however, count my smiles. On a recent day I had to go to the doctor and the grocery before heading home. I smiled at these people, some of whom responded, so I’m guessing they could tell I was smiling under my mask.

• nurse admitting me into the facility
• doctor examining me
• 2nd nurse taking my blood
• receptionist returning paperwork
• employee walking into store
• cashier
• 3 family members

Not a huge total, but I managed to get 9 people today.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

Today’s tip is to buy and extra item and donate it to a local food bank.

The food bank has always been important to me. I used to volunteer with my kids, helping them understand how lucky they are and how others may not be. Every year, I’ve tried to donate some supplies to either of those close to me, though probably not often enough.

This year, with the strange world we live in and fewer trips, I know there are plenty of people in need. I decided to do some extra donations to the local bank. Rather than give them some food items, I purchased some local gift cards and gave them. The food bank uses these for perishable items, like milk,  eggs, etc.

I also set a reminder to do this regularly.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

Today’s tip is to be generous and feed someone with food, love, or kindness today.

My love language is Acts of Service, and I do this often, preparing things for the family when I can. Recently I asked my son what he’d want for dinner. He comes down once or twice a month from college for a few days, and I try to ensure he enjoys the time.

His request: ramen.

I put this together for him, and the family, last Friday night.

The sushi I bought, because that’s something he enjoys, and I’m not nearly as good as some local chefs.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

Today’s tip is to listen wholeheartedly to others without judging them.

I was talking with a friend recently and they were struggling with their workload. They complained about the amount of work, and the dates things were due, while also noting they were struggling to focus and get things done.

In the past, I’d have suggested something, or maybe questioned how they were planning on doing the work. I might even try to get them to see where they weren’t taking advantage of the time they did have and resources available.

In other words, I would have been my typical Type-A, let me solve your problems person.

Instead, I did none of that. I sympathized, empathized, and wished them luck, while asking if I could help.

Sometimes I think venting and talking aloud helps someone sort through their thoughts, and my wife has helped me to learn how to be a sounding board without offering my own input.