Tag: life

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to forgive someone who hurt you in the past.

Like many of you, I don’t always have many good interactions with others. Sometimes the way someone talks to me, or their actions, are hurtful. Easy to not show a reaction, but very hard to not feel one.

Years ago I applied to run for the PASS board of directors. I had an interview with a number of people on the board and it was a bit contentious. They elected to not place me on the ballot for elections, something that I still feel today was improper and and abuse of power.

For a few years, I didn’t talk to anyone on that board.

However, I’m a bit past that. What’s done is done, and despite my disagreement, I don’t harbor ill feelings, nor do I look for revenge or wish anyone to not do well that was a part of that group. I forgive them.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to notice when someone is down and try to brighten their day.

One thing I do like about social media is that people can vent and ask for support. I try to mostly look for pictures and celebrate life with others, but if someone is struggling, I do try to post something positive or send them a comment.

Recently I noticed a friend was a bit down. Having a hard time. I reached out privately, just to send my best wishes and offer to listen if they need to vent or talk. Usually when I do this, I let them know there is no need to reply.

Usually that gets me a heart or like, which is good for me, and hopefully good for them.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to give your time, energy, or attention to help someone in need.

I try to help others, in my field, kids in sports, my family, etc. I have mixed feelings about my efforts. They’re good, and they do help people, but in many cases these are people who aren’t really in need. Many tech professionals are doing well in the world. Most of the kids I coach are relatively privileged.

I do try to volunteer, so I’m scheduling a build day for Habitat for Humanity. I’ve volunteered for them before, and I had planned to do a day quarterly this year. Work and life got away from me early, then some health struggles in Q2. Some busy times, but I’m actually scheduling my time on 15 Sep to go work for them.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to share an article, book, or podcast you found helpful.

This would be an article or book for me. I don’t regularly do podcasts.

I have been reading Good Strategy Bad Strategy for work. This is a book that guides a lot of what Redgate does as a company, but it’s an interesting book for thinking about how you guide an organization. I wasn’t sure this would be helpful to me, but it really makes me think about how people present their strategy, what it is, and how they tie that to goals.

It’s harder than you think, but this has me stopping and re-evaluating things. Make me more conscious of my recommendations to customers and others.