I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.
Today’s tip is to forgive someone who hurt you in the past.
Like many of you, I don’t always have many good interactions with others. Sometimes the way someone talks to me, or their actions, are hurtful. Easy to not show a reaction, but very hard to not feel one.
Years ago I applied to run for the PASS board of directors. I had an interview with a number of people on the board and it was a bit contentious. They elected to not place me on the ballot for elections, something that I still feel today was improper and and abuse of power.
For a few years, I didn’t talk to anyone on that board.
However, I’m a bit past that. What’s done is done, and despite my disagreement, I don’t harbor ill feelings, nor do I look for revenge or wish anyone to not do well that was a part of that group. I forgive them.