Tag: coping

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

Today’s tip is to stop and look at something in a new way today.

The world is full of sameness these days. I feel like it’s March 312th, 2020 still in many ways. While I know it’s not, and I do get to do some things outside of my house, most of my world just repeats over and over.

What can I see that’s new? The other day I was leaving to go to the store and I saw the Momma horse out by herself. Baby is getting confident and was walking around, but I stopped for a minute and watched Momma. And took a picture.

For most of the time she’s been here, about 7 months now, we’ve seen her as part of this foal process. However, she’s her own creature, and I stopped to look at her for a few minutes enjoying her life.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

Today’s tip is to get moving. Do something physically active, ideally outdoors.

My nephew came into town last night. He turned 18 recently, and he Dad and I got him a ski trip to Colorado. I donated our condo and I’m driving them up in a few hours. I can’t stay, but I do hope to get outside and spend a little time with them on the slopes, even for an hour.

If not, I’m going to try and get back up there early Sunday morning and ski then. Enjoy the outdoors and get moving.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

Today’s tip is to focus on being kind rather than right.

There’s a tendency to be right, correct, to do what’s best. That might be true for many people and situations, but it’s certainly something I see technical people doing a lot, sometimes (over) arguing or pushing some point without regard to others’ feelings and the impact you have.

I appreciate that sometimes the architecture, the code, the approach really matters. It impacts how our systems work, the costs or our company, and more. However, I also think that we can often debate and discuss in a kinder way.

I’ve been working on trying to move SQL Saturday and events forward in many ways. At Redgate, with partners, with people in the community. I think I’m right to preserve and push the brand, but I recognize that I need to do so positively and not push/press/say I’m right here. I need to be kind and positive.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

Today’s tip is to send an encouraging note to someone that needs a boost.

Many people I know have coped pretty well through this pandemic, but I also know that many people don’t want to share difficult times. I’ve reached out regularly to different people, sometimes just to say hi or check on them.

Recently I just reached out to an old friend, just to tell them I’d enjoyed something they’d posted recently and appreciated it. This, for someone that I’ve seen struggle a bit recently with a few things in their life.

They thanked me, and I hope it gave them a boost.