Tag: coping

Today’s coping tip is to be willing to share how you feel and ask for help when needed.

This has been something that I never did well. My parents and others I respected as a child taught me to suck it up, work through issues, be strong and independent. All good qualities, but as with anything, you can take this too far. I think far too many people of my age and older did a poor job of sharing their feelings with others. We also struggle unnecessarily by not asking for help.

I’ve learned that sharing feelings isn’t bad. I’m not less capable, nor am I less of a professional, coach, husband, father, etc. I can still be accountable for whatever and not like it or not feel good about something. I can also ask for help when needed.

I’m getting better about providing feedback to others in my life without griping or complaining, at least, I think I am. Recently I’ve pinged a few people to let them know that I do need help prepping for some work things because I’m busy, and because I need help in ensuring I have my schedule correct. With all the things I do, it’s easy to lose track of sessions, deadlines, and more.

The pandemic has taught me to better let people know how I’m doing, and if I’m overwhelmed, ask for help.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to remind yourself that you are enough just as you are.

This is interesting, as I’m not satisfied with who I am today. I’m not enough. I need to drop some weight, I need to build more muscle and cardio fitness. I need to learn more to be better at my job. I need to spend more time with my wife and kids.

There’s more.

However, I also am good enough at most everything right now. I can’t complain as I’m doing well in life and I am happy about where I am.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to choose to see your mistakes as steps to help you learn.

I preach this with the kids I coach. Mistakes will happen, but let’s learn and grow from them and don’t dwell on them as failures.

I make mistakes regularly. I typo things, I have mis-written something and needed to issue a correction to an article. I’ve published things that were plagiarized and sent apologies after pulling them.

These things have taught me to slow down, double check my work, and accept responsibility. At work, I have learned that when working with sales, I need to be a little more cautious about how I present something. I’ve learned to be cognizant of different peoples’ roles and how changes affect them. Or even how proposals might affect their job.

Each time I type something incorrect, or I offend/upset someone, or even when I might do something else wrong, I don’t get too upset, and I don’t say I’ll never do it again. Instead, I usually take a few minutes and try to think about how I might prevent this again in the future.

It’s a good way to learn how to change habits and possibly prevent mistakes.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to free up time by canceling any unnecessary plans.

I. Suck. At. This.

I don’t like to blow things off, and I do like to keep busy. I also don’t schedule a lot of things, and tend to just spur of the moment do things. I rarely make reservations or plans ahead of time.

Recently, I had something cancel on me. I had planned to go watch some of the kids I coach play for their team. When the game got postponed, I didn’t look to see if there was another option and decided to relax at home.

Overall, I am getting better about not making plans for vacations or trips and trying to enjoy some downtime. If an opportunity comes up to do something, I’ll decide if I want to participate, but I’ve learned not to feel pressure, or to engage in FOMO. I’m OK with missing things if I need downtime.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.