Tag: coping

Today’s coping tip is take your time. Make space to just breathe and be still.

An easy one today. I’m relaxing in Venice with my wife, and likely no real plans. I’m just wandering around.

We did this in Hawaii this summer, enjoying the beach and just sitting on the beach and looking, or floating in the ocean. Not talking, no agenda, just breathing and letting my mind wander.

I need to do this a bit more often on work days as well. It’s a good coping mechanism.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to enjoy photos from a time with happy memories.

On vacation today in Venice, so I ought to get more, but I’ve started to put some memorable phots on my lock screen and wallpaper of my mobile. I tend to pick pictures of my wife and I’ve used these recently:

Bonus points if you guess the locations.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to notice what you are feeling without any judgment.

Today I’m stressed. I have been traveling a bit and trying to work remotely from my normal remote work at home. I’ve been in hotels, airplanes, airports, and elsewhere getting things done.

I’m also looking forward, and still have a number of trips. I’m in London today, heading to Venice for a few days of holiday, but then I’m back in London for work, then off to Boston next week, with Toronto, Seattle, perhaps London again.

This is both normal and expected, and hard. I get into these situations where a number of things get scheduled in short order, but I know that I’ll get through it and it’s not too much. I’ve been watching the schedule, and there are some downtimes, but this stretch of late Sept through Oct is tough.

I’m not making decisions or regretting things, just accepting the busy, stressful time and working through it. One day at a time.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to ask a trusted friend to tell you what strengths they see in you.

On one hand this would seem easy. On the other, it feels very narcissistic. That means for me, this is tough to do. They might say something I didn’t expect, or not appreciate something I think I do well.

A conundrum, but I’m taking a chance. I’m asking someone I know well what they think are the characteristics of me that are positive and useful. Here’s what I got back:

• Someone who is analytical
• Someone who gets things done
• I bring people together
• I can flex when needed
• Good technical and business IQ
• Not afraid to fail
• Doesn’t need oversight
• Passionate
• Gives good hugs

I particularly like the last one.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.