Tag: coping

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to ask for help and let someone else discover the job of giving.

This. Is. Hard.

It’s hard for me to ask people for help. Instead, I tend to tackle and only engage in things I can do myself. Probably some childhood events made me this way, and I understand it’s both good and bad.

I actually decided to do this recently. I needed to drop off a car for service. I could have just dropped it off, walked somewhere to work/eat lunch, and then returned over. It’s inconvenient, and I might be stuck somewhere. I also might have to move if the place is busy.

Instead, I asked my son to follow me down and then bring me back. I had to do the reverse the next day, but needed to go relatively early before some meetings. He was happy to help, and likely it was harder for me than him.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to give thanks, list the kind things others have done for you.

I am very thankful for my life, especially with where I am today. I tend to do many things for myself, but here are a few things people have done for me in the last week:

• cooked for me
• brought me something I forgot
• bought me a drink
• thanked me for doing my job
• sent a kind note after I finished something
• praised a piece of work
• did a favor I asked
• thanked me for cooking

There are more, but I am finding myself taking note more often when someone does something kind, rather than dismissing or accepting it as something I’d do.

Instead, I’m learning to feel gratitude for little things.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to look for something positive to say to everyone you speak to.

In general, I’m a fairly positive person and I think most others are as well. I smile at people, wave, greet them, and get positive responses overall.

I’m writing this a few days in advance, and while I didn’t see a lot, I did interact with a few people.

• I stopped for coffee in the morning and made it a point to greet the person, ask how they were, smile, and wish them well.
• I went to coach and greeted parents, thanking them for coming and supporting their kids. You’d think they’d all be there, but often I have only 1 of 2, or sometimes none there.
• I did have to be hard on kids, but I did make a point of cheering things they did well and telling them where I liked their action or effort before asking for changes.
• I made it a point to thank the staff at the venue, as well as ensure my team cleaned up their space.
• Stopping for dinner, positive comments before and after the meal to staff, thanking them for their work and wishing them happy holidays.
• Letting my son and wife know it was good to spend some time with them in the evening.

Often I find myself thanking others for things they would do, or are responsible for, regardless of what I do. I know I’ve worked in the service industry, and it is nice to have some recognize you, even when it’s your job.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to see how many different people you can smile at today.

I’m writing this a bit before, but I saw this item, so I started to track the list:

• Guy at the ATV shop
• Two people at the tire shop, as I walked by and stopped to say hi.
• Repairman that came to the house
• Receptionist at the gmy
• Three random people I saw while working out.
• Gas station attendant (no gas, just a soda )
• parent and receptionist at the volleyball gym
• Team and coaches practicing before us (13)
• My team (10).
• My son

Not a bad list for one day.