I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.
Today’s tip is to ask for help and let someone else discover the job of giving.
This. Is. Hard.
It’s hard for me to ask people for help. Instead, I tend to tackle and only engage in things I can do myself. Probably some childhood events made me this way, and I understand it’s both good and bad.
I actually decided to do this recently. I needed to drop off a car for service. I could have just dropped it off, walked somewhere to work/eat lunch, and then returned over. It’s inconvenient, and I might be stuck somewhere. I also might have to move if the place is busy.
Instead, I asked my son to follow me down and then bring me back. I had to do the reverse the next day, but needed to go relatively early before some meetings. He was happy to help, and likely it was harder for me than him.
Yes, it is hard, but it’s also something I’ve gotten better at doing. As I get older (and, hopefully, wiser), I realize I’m only human and can only do so much. It isn’t just about asking for help; it’s also knowing how and when to delegate tasks, and asking for favors.