Tag: life

Today’s coping tip is to choose to see your mistakes as steps to help you learn.

I preach this with the kids I coach. Mistakes will happen, but let’s learn and grow from them and don’t dwell on them as failures.

I make mistakes regularly. I typo things, I have mis-written something and needed to issue a correction to an article. I’ve published things that were plagiarized and sent apologies after pulling them.

These things have taught me to slow down, double check my work, and accept responsibility. At work, I have learned that when working with sales, I need to be a little more cautious about how I present something. I’ve learned to be cognizant of different peoples’ roles and how changes affect them. Or even how proposals might affect their job.

Each time I type something incorrect, or I offend/upset someone, or even when I might do something else wrong, I don’t get too upset, and I don’t say I’ll never do it again. Instead, I usually take a few minutes and try to think about how I might prevent this again in the future.

It’s a good way to learn how to change habits and possibly prevent mistakes.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to free up time by canceling any unnecessary plans.

I. Suck. At. This.

I don’t like to blow things off, and I do like to keep busy. I also don’t schedule a lot of things, and tend to just spur of the moment do things. I rarely make reservations or plans ahead of time.

Recently, I had something cancel on me. I had planned to go watch some of the kids I coach play for their team. When the game got postponed, I didn’t look to see if there was another option and decided to relax at home.

Overall, I am getting better about not making plans for vacations or trips and trying to enjoy some downtime. If an opportunity comes up to do something, I’ll decide if I want to participate, but I’ve learned not to feel pressure, or to engage in FOMO. I’m OK with missing things if I need downtime.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to write down three things you appreciate about yourself.

I don’t mind self-evaluation, but I struggle a bit to publicly talk about things I do well. Still, it’s a bit of coping for me to become more comfortable. Here goes:

• I work hard not to overcommit – I say no a lot which helps me to keep a lot of balance in my life.
• I focus on my health regularly, not obsessively – After running every day for over 4 years, I’ve learned to continue to try to work out more days, but not get worried over missing some.
• I can be extroverted – Not a lot, but I do well with audiences, presentations, talking in front of groups. It can wear me out and I need downtime, but I can do it. It’s made my life more interesting and fun.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s coping tip is to find a new way to use one of your strengths or talents.

I asked someone for strengths recently. Most of those items are things that I use regularly in the same way. However, I did use one in a new way recently.

I am a hugger. Usually it’s a hello or goodbye hug with friends. Sometimes it’s a sympathetic hug for family when they’re down or sad. Recently I changed that.

I was at the gym for yoga and another guy was there, venting a bit about some struggles with the instructor. I see him there often, and I’ve said hi, but I don’t know him well. However, it just occurred to me to say “sorry” and ask if he needed a hug. He looked at me a bit strangely, but said sure.

I gave him one of my strong, long hugs. I try to hug for at least 5 seconds, and often 10. If you’ve never hugged someone for 10sec, try it. It’s great.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.