Tag: life

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

Today’s tip is to shift your mood by doing something you really enjoy.

It’s been a semi-quieter week this week. Coming off the holiday weekend, and with the summer time being somewhat slower, I was able to get work done without a lot of pressure on deadlines or out of band requests from other individuals.

This week I took a break during lunch to swim. I enjoy it, and I hadn’t done much since I had COVID last year. However, with the warmer weather, and outdoor pools opening, I made it a point to get out and swim this week.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

Today’s tip is to avoid saying must or should today.

My wife reminds me that “should” is a cognitive trap for an individual. I try to avoid saying, or thinking that I should do things and rather look at what are real obligations or responsibilities and what are things I would like to do.

This past weekend was a long, holiday weekend, and I had plans to handle some tasks. I worked through some, partially in most cases, but I was able to complete a task. In any case, I didn’t put myself in the place to say I should get more done, or I must get something done.

Instead, I worked on the tasks in front of my, listening to my body, mood, and family, being satisfied with a good effort and the state of my progress.

I had wondered if I could get three Juniper bushes cut down, but in two days, I got two done and then enjoyed another day with my family. The state of things (until this weekend).

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

Today’s tip is to pause, breathe, and feel your feet firmly on the ground.

I often do this in yoga. It’s one reason I like classes. The instructor slows me down, has me sit and breathe, meditative-like, at times when I might not do that at home.

Today, I took a few minutes to stand outside the house, close my eyes, breathe, and enjoy the outdoor summer air.

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

Today’s tip is to be willing to ask for help when you need it.

This is hard for me. I tend to work independently, whether at my job or at home, but I am learning to be a little more vulnerable and open. A couple examples from this year where I learned this recently.

At work, I was a little overloaded. I talked with my boss and we moved a couple things to other people. Not big things, but they were recurring and a small bit of stress when I get busy. We also talked about shifting a few things in my job, working them in a new way. She had some suggestions that helped me rework how I get things done.

At my last 1:1, we noticed my stress and coping were more positive.

At home, I tend to just tackle work that needs to be done. However, I have started to be better about not doing everything myself. I asked a kid to help me change implements on the tractor. I also asked another one to help me add a hitch to my wife’s car. I could have used some tools or leverage to get things done, but I also could have thrown out my back. Asking for help was a better idea, and the kids learned something.