I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.
Today’s tip is to be willing to ask for help when you need it.
This is hard for me. I tend to work independently, whether at my job or at home, but I am learning to be a little more vulnerable and open. A couple examples from this year where I learned this recently.
At work, I was a little overloaded. I talked with my boss and we moved a couple things to other people. Not big things, but they were recurring and a small bit of stress when I get busy. We also talked about shifting a few things in my job, working them in a new way. She had some suggestions that helped me rework how I get things done.
At my last 1:1, we noticed my stress and coping were more positive.
At home, I tend to just tackle work that needs to be done. However, I have started to be better about not doing everything myself. I asked a kid to help me change implements on the tractor. I also asked another one to help me add a hitch to my wife’s car. I could have used some tools or leverage to get things done, but I also could have thrown out my back. Asking for help was a better idea, and the kids learned something.