I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.
Today’s tip is to cultivate loving kindness towards others today.
Patience, understanding, empathy. Those have been more important in my life during the pandemic of the last year. I think it’s been especially important during those days when I don’t feel particularly happy. Really, when I’m grumpy.
A bit over a week ago there was an active shooter in Boulder, CO. My middle son goes to the University there, and while he’s not often on campus, he is there. The store was about a mile from campus, though I doubt my son has ever been to that store. Still, a slightly scary time as the campus locked down while he was there.
I wasn’t too worried about him, but the incident shook my wife. I needed to show understanding and kindness towards her scared, sad, and other feelings that day. I reminded myself, after a year of pandemic living, that my view isn’t others, and I need to accept and work with the way they feel.