I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.
Today’s tip is to encourage or cheer on someone younger than you without opinions, suggestions, or teachings.
This is hard. As a parent, I often want to offer suggestions on how things could be better. As a coach, it’s my job.
I find that sometimes it’s just good to sit back, cheer, and watch. No opinion, nothing other than “good job” or “great”. It’s what I tell parents to do when they watch their kids play on my team.
This is a time of year I get to do that. I usually go watch the kids that I’ll coach over the winter when they play in high school. No comments, no coaching, no “do this”, just “it’s great to see you play.”
I’ve learned they have plenty of things they wish they’d done better. I’ll give them things in a few months, but for now it’s just cheering and clapping.