I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.
Today’s tip is to be kind to yourself when something goes wrong.
I have been learning to be a lot better about forgiving myself during the pandemic. I realized during the last year that many things get out of my control, and I have to adjust my life, and accept that.
I still strive to move forward, to get stronger, smarter, more compassionate, etc. But I also have more acceptance when things don’t go well.
In the past year, I’ve had many plans fall apart. Some because of external changes, some because of me. As I get older, there are days that I’m a bit worn out, and I’ve tried to be kind to myself because I had to change plans. I’ve thrown out my back, and learned to not be mad at myself. I’ve accepted days when I’m sick or tired and can’t get something done.
Maybe the best example for me is that there are days my body is sore, or lacking energy. Some of these days I’ve schedule a yoga class (we’re still reserving space at my gym). I know I can’t always get through the class without a break, and I am kind to myself, not beating myself up when I’ve given a good effort, but just don’t have the energy.
It’s not an easy thing to do, but I’ve learned how to work hard, push myself, but accept when something has gone wrong, even if it’s only in my mind.