A Culture That Allows Mistakes

Building a culture that promotes teamwork, efficiency, retention, and other positive attributes can be challenging. While many organizations want accountability and responsibility, it is easy for managers to tip over into a blame-and-chastise pattern. When someone makes a mistake and a deadline is missed or a client gets upset, how do you respond?

I saw an article that gives some examples from the cybersecurity world about how to build a culture that allows mistakes and forgives them. We all make mistakes, and we should strive to correct them while working to avoid repeating the same mistake. But we will make mistakes again in the future, so how do we deal with them?

One of the challenges with building a strong culture that is productive is with management. Far too many people react poorly when things go wrong. I find this is a similar challenge to parenting, where we often struggle to let go of control and accept that mistakes will occur. We can also worry that we will be blamed for others’ mistakes and want to push our employees or children to avoid mistakes. Often our reactions are more fear-based, for ourselves or even for others’ safety. However, we can’t completely avoid things going wrong. It’s never worked for me, either at work or at home.

There are plenty of articles on creating blameless cultures (one, two, and searches), most of which give reasoning why this works better and hints on what you can do. For many of us, these might feel like a dream we cannot chase. With some managers, the idea of even broaching the topic might be too scary. In those situations, I might try discussing the ideas with peers and perhaps implementing ideas with them, rather than trying to convince management.

Ultimately culture requires support from those in charge. Management has to actually believe in a culture that tolerates and accepts mistakes, while still striving to reduce their occurrence. Everyone deserves to make mistakes and recover from them. We’d like to prevent repeat mistakes, but those will happen. My goal is to work to be better over time and expect others to do the same. While I might need to move someone to a new job or even let them go, it wouldn’t be because of making a few mistakes. It would be because of constant mistakes without making an effort to change their behavior and be better.

Steve Jones

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Daily Coping 20 Jun 2022

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to look for a positive spin on a difficult situation.

I’ve got a few deadlines coming up at work. These are for some disparate projects, and they all require some effort and work. One is something I tackled, one is something I agreed to, and a couple are things that got thrust upon me.

This creates stress, as I still have my “normal” work as well as some travel.

It would be easy to get upset and angry, to get worried and increase my stress. What I’ve learned to do better is treat these are opportunities. I will get a few things done, learn a few more, and push off some other items do deal with these 3 things.

I’m not always good at this, but when I can do this, everything is a little better. I still have some extra work, but my stress level is better when my attitude is more positive.

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Daily Coping 19 Jul 2022

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.

Today’s tip is to put a problem into perspective by seeing the bigger picture.

Our fridge died recently. We came back from a trip to find it had died. After moving some things to the garage fridge, and throwing out a lot, we called the manufacturer as this is under warranty. Two weeks later we’re still working through what they will do to fix or replace the fridge.

In the meantime. I trek in and out of the garage for things. It’s a pain when trying to cook. Everyone is annoyed, especially the middle kid. I half think he might just buy a fridge because he’s salaried and living at home.

However, I remind him, and myself, this is a small problem. There are people who can’t afford to replace a fridge and are in our situation. There are people who struggle without a fridge, or for that matter, without food.

The bigger picture is this is really a small annoyance and we can deal with it.

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Speaking at SQL Saturday LA

SQL Saturday is coming back in-person to Los Angeles. I’ve been to this event a few times, and was sad when the pandemic pushed it virtual. However, 2022 is the year to restart.

I’m speaking, and my flights are booked. If you will be in LA and want to come learn about data, databases, DevOps, and more at Loyola Marymount on Aug 13, register and come on down.

There are still a few speaking slots, so if you want to present, submit here: https://sessionize.com/inperson-2022-data-sql-saturday-la/

Register for SQL Saturday Los Angeles 2022 today.

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