Daily Coping 7 Jun 2021

I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag. 

Today’s tip is to stay positive in your conversations with others.

This is a good tip for me this time of year. As we wind down volleyball this season, there are some tough conversations to have with kids about their performance and things they need to work on for next year. There are also talks with kids (and parents) that won’t get offered a spot to stay with the team for next year.

One of the important things I am trying to remember when having hard talks is that I want to emphasize positive things that have happened, note what has worked, and frame issues as opportunities to improve in the future. These are areas of focus that will help improve athletes in the future.

It can be hard, but it is important to be clear and honest about success and failure, as well as the ways to improve for the future.

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3 Responses to Daily Coping 7 Jun 2021

  1. Jeff Moden says:

    I’m just curious… for those that “won’t be offered a spot for next year”, is there no recourse? Are they not allowed to even “try out” for the team again. I know if someone told me that I needed to “try out” again and I wanted to continue on the team, that would definitely provide a serious “wakeup call” and I’d be busting a hump over the summer to make sure I measured up.

    Or, have these people already failed such a “wakeup call”?


  2. way0utwest says:

    It’s a bit of both. Anyone can try out. Even those kids receiving an offer can try out to “better” their offer for another team.

    This is a journey, and as a teenager, it’s a hard one at times. Part of what I do is hopefully help them be prepared for bigger steps to college, employment, etc.


  3. Jeff Moden says:

    Yep. There’s actually some pretty good parallels to what can happen in adult life here. Thanks, for the feedback, Steve.


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